Recommendations, Resources and References

Gender, Philosophy, Psychology, History, Politics and Sociology

The new Story of the People… is a Story of Interbeing, of reunion. In its personal expression, it proclaims our deep interdependency on other beings, not only for the sake of surviving, but also even to exist.
– Charles Eisenstein The More Beautiful World Our Hearts Know is Possible

Gender – Feminism

waves crashing on a beach viewed from aboveThe Power of Partnership, Riane Eisler
Backlash and Stiffed, Susan Faludi
Joining the Resistance, Carol Gilligan
Darkness Now Visible, Carol Gilligan and David Richards
Why Does Patriarchy Persist?, Carol Gilligan and Naomi Snider
Women and Nature: The Roaring Inside Her, Susan Griffin
Beyond Patriarchy: Women and Men in the Evolution of a Post-Patriarchal World, Patricia Kraus
The Time of the Black Jaguar, Arkan Lushwala
Eve’s Seed, Biology, the Sexes and the Course of History, Robert McElvaine

Bonds of Love, Psychoanalysis, Feminism and the Problem of Domination, Jessica Benjamin
Beyond Doer and Done To, Jessica Benjamin
Leaving my Father’s House, Marion Goodman
The Wedding of Sophia, Jeffrey Raff
Vulnerable Constitutions: Queerness, Disability and the Remaking of American Manhood, Cynthia Barounis
Gender Trouble, Feminism and the Subversion of Identity, Judith Butler


The back of a young man wearing a backpack and cap with the concrete and steel supports of a large building above himThe New Manhood, Steve Biddulph
Contemporary Perspectives on Masculinity, Kenneth Clatterbaugh
To Be a Man, Robert Masters
The Descent of Man, Grayson Perry
For the Love of Men, Liz Plank
Remaking Masculinity, David Tacey
Remaking Manhood: Stories from the Front Lines of Change, Mark Greene

Raising Boys, Steve Biddulph
When Boys Become Boys, Judy Y. Chu
Real Boys, William Pollack
Raising Cane, Dan Kindlon, Michael Thompson
Deep Secrets, Niobe Way

Spinning Threads of Radical Aliveness, Miki Kashtan
Beyond Patriarchy Women and Men in the Evolution of a Post-Patriarchal World, Patricia Kraus
What’s the (cis)White Man’s Role in a Post-Patriarchal World,  Ethan Lipsitz
Why The Patriarchy Is Killing Men, Liz Plank

Good Men Project
Team Human
Voice Male Magazine


sun peeks over horizon of the earth in spaceThe More Beautiful World Our Hearts Knows is Possible, Charles Eisenstein
Climate, A New Story, Charles Eisenstein
Sacred Economics, Charles Eisenstein
The Ascent of Humanity, Charles Eisenstein
The Patterning Instinct, Jeremy Lent
A New Republic of the Heart, Terry Patten


Between the World and Me, Ta-Nehisi Coates
White Fragility, Robin DiAngelo
White Awake, Daniel Hill
My Grandmother’s Hands, Resmaa Menakem
Essay: The Complexity of Identity: “Who Am I?”, Beverly Daniel Tatum
Anything written by James Baldwin and Toni Morrison


Emergent Strategy, Adrienne Maree Brown
Daring Greatly, Brene Brown
Love Warrior: A Memoire, Glennon Doyle
Strangers in Their Own Land, Arlie Hochschild
Moral Politics, George Lakoff
Great Tide Rising, Kathleen Dean Moore
The Passion of The Western Mind, Epilogue, Rick Tarnas

Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity. To feel is to be vulnerable.  To foreclose on our emotional life out of a fear that the costs will be too high is to walk away from the very thing that gives meaning to living…. If we want greater clarity in our purpose or deeper and more meaningful spiritual lives, vulnerability is the path.
– Brene Brown, Daring Greatly

Transformational/Inner Work

The tightly wrapped tips of a fern frond beginning to unfurlThe Path of Forgiveness, Eileen Barker
Healing the Mother Wound, Bethany Webster
Honey Root
COR Experience
Robert Masters
The Work That Reconnects, Joanna Macy
The Diamond Approach
The Mankind Project
Gender Equity and Reconciliation International

From the Epilogue of The Passion of the Western Mind, Rick Tarnas

[T]he deepest passion of the Western mind has been to reunite with the ground of its being. The driving impulse of the West’s masculine consciousness has been its dialectical quest not only to realize itself, to forge its own autonomy, but also, finally, to recover its connection with the whole, to come to terms with the great feminine principle in life: to differentiate itself from but then rediscover and reunite with the feminine, with the mystery of life, of nature, of soul.

… But to achieve this reintegration of the repressed feminine, the masculine must undergo a sacrifice, an ego death. The Western mind must be willing to open itself to a reality the nature of which could shatter its most established beliefs about itself and about the world. This is where the real act of heroism is going to be. A threshold must now be crossed, a threshold demanding a courageous act of faith, of imagination, of trust in a larger and more complex reality; a threshold, moreover, demanding an act of unflinching self-discernment.

And this is the great challenge of our time, the evolutionary imperative for the masculine to see through and overcome its hubris and one-sidedness, to own its unconscious shadow, to choose to enter into a fundamentally new relationship of mutuality with the feminine in all its forms. The feminine then becomes not that which must be controlled, denied, and exploited, but rather fully acknowledged, respected, and responded to for itself. It is recognized: not the objectified “other,” but rather source, goal, and immanent presence.

But why has the pervasive masculinity of the Western intellectual and spiritual tradition suddenly become so apparent to us today, while it remained so invisible to almost every previous generation? I believe this is occurring only now because, as Hegel suggested, a civilization cannot become conscious of itself, cannot recognize its own significance, until it is so mature that it is approaching its own death.

Today we are experiencing something that looks very much like the death of modern man, indeed that looks very much like the death of Western man. Perhaps the end of “man” himself is at hand. But man is not a goal. Man is something that must be overcome–and fulfilled, in the embrace of the feminine.

New York: Random House, ©1991 Richard Tarnas